Life is Hard
Life can be very hard
I am very blessed that I was raised by two amazing people, my mom and my dad. My childhood was not perfect but one thing ALWAYS remained steadfast in our home, you must ALWAYS TRY and 1)be a good person 2)do the right thing.
My parents are not the type of people who try to get ahead at all costs. They would much rather be at the bottom of the totem poll and have nothing, than do unethical things to get at the top. I would say that these are their top priorities:
1. Always love God and pray. 2. Try to be kind to everyone at all times….even if they are not kind to you 3. You cannot control other people and make them do the right thing. You can only control yourself. Pray for people who struggle to do the right thing.
Sometimes I just want to make other people have the same values as me but my values are based on how I was raised. My parents are honest and hardworking people. It is not surprising that I value honesty, integrity, and hard work. (sidenote: I am VERY VERY VERY far from being perfect and doing the right thing at all times. I have many my moments where I fail.)
Teaching us a lesson
I personally believe that God does not try to “punish us” when we fail but is constantly trying to teach us lessons. Example 1: I write a mean spirited text about someone and it is completely mean spirited. I know it is mean spirited but I don’t care. The person is making me mad and I want to vent to someone. I accidently send the text to the person that the mean spirited text is about instead of the person it was intended to go to. God is saying “Christa, I love you so much. Writing that mean spirited text is not the right thing to do. In order for you to completely understand this, I am going to allow you to accidently send it to the person you were talking about. This will give you some humility that hopefully will help you learn that this is not the way you should behave.
Example #2: My ex husband Matt asks me “Hey Christa, do you mind meeting me half way today to get Will?” Me: “I can’t.” (side note: I am at home with Charlotte and she is playing with her toys. I don’t want to pack her in the car and drive twenty minutes to the half way point and twenty minutes back home. That is forty minutes in the car and she is 18 month old. Then God starts to put things in my head ( Matt has three other kids. He wants to see his son William and will drive the full way if he has to. Meeting him will give him forty extra minutes with his other kids. You are telling him no you can’t, but in reality you can.) I send another text to Matt five minutes later “Ok, I can.” I don’t feel like it, but I can. I can put a movie on in the car for Charlotte for forty minutes. I would rather just drive the forty minutes then have that UGH feeling in my body (….my conscience) beating me up inside. If I drive the forty minutes I can feel good for the rest of the night and that is a lot longer than forty minutes. No, I am not a saint for doing this. I complain in my head about doing it but God has told me “This is the right thing to do and I can’t just ignore that.”
Life is so unfair sometimes
Have you ever felt that you have followed all of the rules, done all of the things you were told to do, and you still come in last? You see people who do not follow rules, do whatever they want, and very seldom have any consequences? You say to yourself “God, you see that I am doing the right thing and they are not. It is not fair that they are still benefiting even though they are not doing the right thing.
I have good news for you! This is what I have to remind myself. In this world, we only can control ourselves. Even a dictator cannot make a person do something. We can choose to try and do the right thing or we can choose to do the wrong thing. Here is the beauty about life. Life may not seem fair but LIFE IS FAIR (maybe not on this Earth but when we get to Heaven we will understand that there is a reason we had to go through different struggles). When I say it is fair, I am saying this for the reference of people doing the right things and following the rules and others not doing the right thing and not following the rules. Life IS FAIR because GOD has the power to see everything. He knows everything. He knows the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly about each and every one of us. You can fool other people but you cannot fool God. He loves ALL of his children even when they act bad. No matter what, God loves us. Does that mean that we can act whatever way we want because God will love us unconditionally? Absolutely not. We ALL will have consequences for OUR behavior. These consequences may be on earth but we may not get them until we die. You can fool everyone on this earth but you WILL NEVER FOOL GOD.
Galatians 6: 7-10 Do not be deceived:<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29196J" data-link="(J)”> God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29196K" data-link="(K)”> 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh,<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29197L" data-link="(L)”> from the flesh will reap destruction;<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29197M" data-link="(M)”> whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29197N" data-link="(N)”> 9 Let us not become weary in doing good,<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29198O" data-link="(O)”> for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29198P" data-link="(P)”> 10 Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29199Q" data-link="(Q)”> to all people, especially to those who belong to the family<sup class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-29199R" data-link="(R)”> of believers.
This makes me feel better because I can keep going on and doing the right thing. I may come in last but that is ok. I will not feel good at the moment when I am last but I have peace in my heart that when I meet my maker, I can stand before him and say “God, I did not always do as you wanted me to but I promise you I tried.”
I would rather do the right thing and come in last than do the wrong thing and come in first.
I am reminded by God to stop having anxiety and to keep trying to do the right thing!!!!!!!!!
Philippians 4:6-9 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you
Thank you for letting me share my thoughts with you guys. We all have struggles in life (some far more harder than others. We just have to keep on trying to be the best people that we can be. I am going to leave you with this because Mother Teresa is one of my most favorite people. The last line of this touches my spirit more than anything.